August 5, 2020

{Guest Post} How to Help Your Family Cope When Self-Isolation Makes Tension Rise


How to Help Your Family Cope When Self-Isolation Makes Tension Rise


We all love our families, but living with other humans is hard, even in the best of times. And now that families are self-isolating to prevent the spread of COVID-19, normal household tension has reached a whole new level. Parents and kids, husbands, and wives, we’re all feeling the stress of self-isolation, and it often seems like there’s no end in sight. True, we may not know when life will return to normal, but that doesn’t mean we’re helpless when it comes to household tension.


Try Proactive Solutions


Some of the issues causing tension may be hard to pinpoint, but others are easy to identify when you stop and think about it. In some households, tensions arise because of the pandemic itself - and how the family should respond. Then there’s the stress that comes from multiple people sharing a household (and resources) around the clock.


One example of an easy solution relates to how we’re all leaning on technology a little more these days. Technology is great for connecting with people outside your family, plus it gives us all an outlet for entertainment and escaping our worries. Problems arise, though, when everyone is competing for the same devices. The good news is that these are pretty easy problems to solve. For example, if some members of the family are into video gaming, you can avoid conflict over who gets to use the TV by investing in a monitor that’s just for the gamers in the house. Many families are also on a tight budget these days, which is why you’ll want to spend some time researching the best gaming monitors so you’ll be sure your purchase is a good value.


Another common issue is when everyone is relying on the same internet connection. Many households are straining their connection, especially when someone in the home is into multiplayer games like Fortnite that add to your internet use. For an easy solution to this issue, consider switching your internet service to a brand that offers fiber optic connections for faster downloads and better online play.


Set Boundaries… and Maintain Communication


Quick-fix solutions are ideal for putting an end to many issues, but some disagreements don’t have obvious solutions. The good news is that you can troubleshoot lots of these issues by setting boundaries AND keeping open communication. One example from Insider is how families often have disagreements about the use of common spaces like the kitchen and living room. We all need these spaces for work, fun, and time to relax and unwind.


When everyone is on top of each other all the time, the worst thing you can do is simply go about your business, feeling frustrated with others for not understanding your need for space. If you don’t communicate, it’s no wonder they don’t understand! This is why you have to express your needs for certain spaces — and then set boundaries that work for everyone.


Find Your Ideal Schedule


At this point in the pandemic, your schedule for work, parenting, play, and life in general is not what it used to be. Consider: do you have a schedule that works for you and your family? You’ll need to be able to change habits and routines, which may mean adopting a new work style or new parenting strategies. The key is to be willing to adapt while also maintaining structure in your daily routine.


We all need structure to keep us sane right now, but Toronto.com recommends allowing for variety too, including exercise and time outdoors to get fresh air. These are small things that are easy to do, yet even the smallest habits can make a huge difference for the whole family. Some conflict is inevitable (no matter the circumstances), but we can all do our part to lessen the family drama and make these difficult and confusing times work for everyone.


Thank you to Emma Grace Brown of Emmagracebrown.com
for writing this guest post.

photo credit: Rawpixel


July 7, 2020

{Guest Post} Returning to Work: How to Prepare for an Interview


Returning to Work: How to Prepare for an Interview
 
Transitioning from military service to a career as a civilian can be overwhelming. From the employer’s standpoint, there is a tendency to either have high expectations from you or be reserved about hiring a soldier freshly out from service. Other than the currently limited job opportunities, the competition with other applicants is also a factor at play. And for veterans, it may be scarier to dive back into the civilian world compared to life in the military. 

There has been a significant change in the economy with the ongoing global pandemic, and more so with the work industry. Work-from-home set-up to those who can are imposed and interviews or meetings are done with little to no contact if possible through video calls to minimize the spread. It is a tough time for all, but we are a resilient bunch, so we are all managing in the best way we know how. 

Returning to the civilian workforce means looking for job opportunities and narrowing it down, sending out your resume, and going through the interview process. The interview process is probably the more difficult one out of the three. While the basic etiquettes and rules still apply in preparing for a job interview, we have added a few enhancements in consideration to the digital transition from field to a remote setting. This may seem a lot to process or a bit intimidating, but with time and ample preparation, you will be breezing through the hiring process like the champ that you are! 

  1. List your Strengths:
It is a known fact that military men and women are not just any man or woman. The military produces a different type of individual who is known for their discipline, strong work ethic, focus, dedication, loyalty, integrity, and leadership qualities. The list goes on. These are incredibly valuable attributes that employers look for in applicants. The key is applying the skills you have learned during service to civilian life. 

Depending on the job you have applied for, practice relating these attributes to specific scenarios or areas that will apply in the work setting. A common question from the interviewer will be along the lines of “what are your strengths and weaknesses?”

We have covered your strength. In divulging your weaknesses, maneuver it to come out as a positive weakness. For example, being a “perfectionist” may be considered a weakness to you as this may lead to little to no room for mistakes, but employers may see this as being “detail-oriented,” which is always an asset. “Spontaneity” may be another form of weakness, but employers will interpret this as “preparedness” wherein you work better when prepared instead of cramming at the last minute. 

While admitting a flaw or weakness shows that you are conscious of areas you need to improve on, it is more advantageous to highlight a trait that is a flaw to you but an asset to the company. 

2. Update your style:
Removing any bias or preconceived notions will help both you and the recruiter focus on more important things, which is the value that you will be contributing to the company. 
Civilians can easily spot a military person. Other than how a military person carries themselves, there is a universal style for those who have served in the military. Military members naturally stand out from civilians by the way they walk/stand, their haircut, or using jargon that is lost to non-military individuals. 

Dressing up still applies, even if it is an online interview. Dress to impress, but in a civilian standard, not the military’s. It only takes a few seconds to make a positive impression during interviews, so make sure that you are dressed appropriately for the job that you want. You can never go wrong with a suit, but a business-casual style is also appropriate and more chic. One can never go wrong with a crisp, solid-colored, buttoned-down polo shirt. A well-fitted cardigan or navy blazer can be worn over it to add an even more polished look. If you still have your military haircut, consider growing it out for a more civilian look. Neat and chic is the essence of dressing up for an interview.  

3. Begone jargon! 
Having served in the military, picking up jargon is expected and has probably merged with your daily vocabulary. However, do not assume that the interviewer will know that Bravo Zulu is a compliment. Start familiarizing universal terms again. Be conscious of the constant jargon that you use and replace it with its equivalent common word. While AWOL is now a universal acronym commonly used in the workplace, hold off on the jargon during interviews before the interviewer puts your resume and interview assessment on File 13.

4. Consider hiring an interview coach:
The upside of hiring a professional is the certified training and real-time feedback you will get to prepare thoroughly and ace your interview. Other than this, interview coaches can also help you explore the right career option if you still find yourself in limbo and assist you to develop the confidence you need to ease back into the workforce. There are professional career and interview coaches specifically for veterans, so take this into consideration when you are ready to consult with one.  

5. Connect with other veterans:
One of the great things about belonging to the military is gaining an extended family. There is a vast veteran community where you can network and connect with other veterans who may be in the same transition stage as you are or, better yet, have gone through the process who you can seek advice and tips from first-hand. Connecting with other veterans will help you gain insight into what to expect in civilian life transition and easing your way back to the workforce. Check with your local community or neighboring cities for a veterans’ community or organization near you.

With everything in life, the hardest part is getting your foot in the door. Thankfully, there are various organizations and dedicated online assistance programs for veterans to be well-informed and guided into returning to civilian life. There are also a lot of military-friendly employers who understand the value of employing a veteran that you can look into to make the hiring process a bit more bearable.

Post solely written for amilitarystory.com by Amanda Rivera

May 21, 2020

{Guest Post} Unique Wedding Favors

Thank Your Guests with These Unique Wedding Favors


Whether you’re having an intimate wedding or a virtual wedding via Zoom, some things never go out of fashion. And that is precisely the case when it comes to wedding favors. 


We all know about for better or for worse. But if you are old or young, there’s always space to say thanks in style. A union is not just about the coming together of the bride and groom but sharing in the experience. 


From friends to close relatives, groomsmen, bridesmaids, and flower girls, everyone can share in this momentous occasion.


And what better way to show your appreciation than with a carefully chosen favor for your guests. Searching for inspiration? If you want the lowdown on what to pick, consult our list of the best unique favors to delight your invitees. 


  1. Bubble Wands

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Simplicity Ring Bubble Wand


An excellent alternative to the age-old rice and confetti, these bubble wands are a great way to celebrate the happy couple. Plus there’s no mess!


Make your big bash a memorable one with these slinky favors that can be easily placed on the table. Personalize your wands and create a bit of magic with a ribbon or glitter matching your chosen color scheme. 


With an impressive 100 bottles in every pack, there’s plenty of bubbles, especially for larger weddings. Guests can enjoy making delicate bubbles that are as delicate as the bride’s veil guaranteeing a first-rate send-off. 


  1. Notebook & Pen Gift Set

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Personalized Notebook & Pen Gift Set

 

It doesn’t matter if you’re a doodler or an office exec in Wall Street. Your guests will go nuts for this super stylish notebook and pen gift set. 


Check out this smart notebook that comes with a metal black ink pen and benefits from an elasticated closing. Your guests will appreciate somewhere for those all-important minutes, taking notes in round table meetings, idle sketches, and keeping appointments. 


The pen is certainly mightier than the sword. 


  1. Wine Stoppers

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Personalized Wine Stoppers


For oenophiles and wine swishers alike, you cannot go wrong with these cute wine stoppers. 


Perfect for vino lovers, they will love this gift they can use again and again. Your guests can sip on zingy Zinfandel, ravishing Riesling, and glorious Gewurztraminer while looking back on your wedding day.


Made from cork, these offer practicality as well as functionality. Never waste a bottle again thanks to these sublime wedding favors that will last for years to come.  


We are real fans of the custom engraving for both Mr and Mrs not to mention the crucial wedding date serving as a personalized keepsake. 


  1. Salt & Pepper Shakers

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Love Birds Salt & Pepper Shakers


No doubt your guests will be chirping about these delightful salt and pepper shakers.


Enjoy the festivities with the two love birds and go away with a one of a kind treasured memento. Your wedding guests will be thrilled with this practical wedding favor whilst whipping up a storm in the kitchen. 


Made from ceramic, these stylish bird-shaped shakers come in a pretty gift box that is transparent showing off your gift. 


Look a little closer and you will discover a satin ribbon and bow finish off this unique gift guests will love to take home. 



  1. Adventurers Compass

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Adventurers Compass Favors


Do you want to be pointed in the right direction? Look no further than these unique compass favors. 


Perfect for jet setters, frequent travelers or guests with a passion for wanderlust, guests can look back fondly on your big day. Great for destination weddings or themed events, they are made from brushed brass metal. 


Built to last, make an everlasting impression on your guests and turn them into the next Bear Grylls or Michael Palin. Personalized stickers are also available ensuring an additional special touch to your nuptials.



Thank you to 
Emma Miller, Founder, Vow To Be Chic, for sharing this post