November 18, 2013

{Guest Post} New Beginnings

Valerie Pritt, owner and Event Coordinator of Fleur de Lis Event Consulting is a navy wife who understands the pain when your husband works long hours, unpredictable schedules, long deployments, extended detachments and also gets relocated.Valerie has shared this military wedding, as well as her sailor homecoming bbq, and today she shares her personal experience of uprooting from one place to another for a new beginning.

The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life. -Steve Jobs

"Today I want to share a story with you about turning endings into new beginnings. It's a little personal but I feel it's important to share with my fellow military wives and anyone else who has recently found themselves lost in a whirlwind of change. A few months back I relocated from Jacksonville, FL to the Pensacola area and it has been, let's say, interesting. Change is inevitable when you're married to a man in the military. This is sometimes difficult to accept when you have to uproot your life and successful wedding/event planning business to the unknown, especially when your business is built on referrals. The things we do for love! It was bound to happen though, I knew it was only a matter of time, so when the day came I reluctantly packed for Pensacola- dragging my heels all the way. However, this is not the first time my life has been impacted by the military. In fact, a few years ago my mom gave me a hard time after complaining about moving three times in one year, "well, you had to have known what you were getting yourself into when you married a man in the service." If I remember correctly, this comment caused an endless waterfall of tears- because she was right. Mom's are always right. But as right as she was, it can be a hard pill to swallow for an independent woman such as myself. And unfortunately for my husband, he did not marry Suzy Homemaker. Someday I hope to aspire to Suzy's standards but for now it's just not who I am- which, at times, can create some challenging situations. I enjoy working, especially for myself. I have found tremendous satisfaction in building my business and taking pride in my success. I own something that is entirely my own and that completes me. So was I excited to move to Pensacola? I'll be honest, not so much. However, after a hesitant start I contacted a few vendors and started networking. I soon found myself a little excited at the idea of beginning anew. I had the chance to revitalize my business and begin fresh with a lot more experience this time around. Inspiration was all around me and from every new person I met. My commitments are very important to me and even as I continually grow into the area, I'm still traveling to Jacksonville to be there for my current clients and their wedding day. When I make a commitment, nothing stops me! If there's a will, there's a way. So, to the other independent military wives out there- do not fight the inevitable change. Instead, take change as an opportunity to advance yourself, find yourself and rejuvenate yourself."  

Thank you Valerie for sharing this with A Military Story and to our followers. I can totally relate since we moved to Northern New York state last January and I was really happy in Savannah, GA but now we are closer to his family and mine. It's hard though when you do make that sacrifice and follow your hubby. Just remember all the positives!!

So now I turn to you, my followers. Have you encountered challenges with a relocation? Do you have any words of wisdom to share? What has given you strength during these hard times? What has helped you restart your business in a new location?

1 comment:

  1. I just wrote about my struggles recently. I think the important part to remember is to just keep pressing on. Find other passions to fill your days. I have infused hobbies into my small job to be more fulfilled, and found other ways to feel productive than just being defined by my "main" career. It also doesn't help anyone to be angry and resentful all the time, which I learned the hard way.