June 7, 2013

What is a Military Wife?

Jenni from Marine Wife Mommy Life military blog has shared a great post that was originally on her blog, but was soooooo amazing I had to share it here too. But first a little about Jenni, she is the wife to a US Marine and mommy to two amazing boys. She enjoys scrapbooking, couponing, genealogy, cooking, reading, DIY projects and home improvements, shooting weapons, outdoor activities especially if it involves water. She and her husband both have a passion for classic cars, doing home improvements and renovations together when he is home. They all enjoy going to the park with their German Shepherds to play fetch or sports and they love to travel. On Jenni's blog you'll find recipes, DIY projects, military life, and she organizes Blog Hop every weekend. 

A friend messaged Jenni with this poem to share and it says it all! "I wrote this polyphonal reading (i.e. “many voices”) while stationed in Minot, North Dakota for a wives’ Induction Ceremony. Every line is inspired by real Air Force Wives who, along with other military spouses, are a breed of their own. We don’t all want to be “married to the military,” but we are, defacto, and no matter how involved or not we are in “his” world there is much we have in common. To the spouses who are men, my apologies for leaving you out of this piece. Your own sacrifices include ours plus some, and we are grateful for your brave and humble presence among us. The piece is designed to be read by four ladies, reader’s theater style. The form reflects the delightful variety among Military Wives as well as the spirit of cooperation and community that binds them togetherIf you aren't military, I hope it gives you a window into our lives, and inspires you to reach out to that new neighbor who is “just temporary.” You will be richer for it."  ~Jane
By Jane Hubbard Hyde~2005

What is a Military Wife 
A Military wife can be tough to describe.

She is a southern belle,
 a Northeastern Mets fan, 
a California 3rd generation recycler, 
a Pacific Islander.

She is short or tall

a tomboy

a fashion diva

a physician’s assistant

a Republican

a Democrat (yes, even THAT!)

A Military Wife is a career gal

a home-schooler

a scrap-booker

an accomplished cellist

an auto mechanic
So many
many 
many kinds

What is a MILITARY Wife?

They may look different 
and each is wonderfully unique

But they have THIS all in common.

lots of moving—

moving, 
moving, 
moving far from home

moving two cars, 
3 kids and 1 dog
-all riding with HER of course

moving sofas to basements 
because they won’t go in THIS house

moving curtains that won’t fit

moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours

moving away from friends 
moving toward new friends

moving her most important luggage; 
her trunk-full of memories

often waiting-

waiting, 
waiting, 
waiting for housing; 
waiting for orders; 
waiting for deployment; 
waiting for reunion; 
waiting for phones calls;
waiting for the new curtains to arrive;
 waiting for him to come home
for dinner -AGAIN!

They call her “military dependent”, but she knows better

she can balance a checkbook

handle the yard work

fix a noisy toilet.

She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors, and toggle bolts.

She can file the taxes, 
sell a house, 
buy a car, 
or set up a move, 
–all with ONE Power of Attorney.

She welcomes neighbors that don’t welcome her.

Reinvents her career with every PCS; 
locates a house in the desert,
the arctic, 
or the deep south 
and learns to call them all “home”.

She MAKES them all home.

She is fiercely IN-dependent.

Military Wives are somewhat hasty

They leap into decorating, 
leadership, 
volunteering, 
career alternatives, 
churches 
and friendships.

They don’t have 15 years to get to know people.

Their roots are short but flexible.

They plant annuals for themselves 
And perennials for those who come after them.

Military Wives quickly learn to value each other.

They connect over coffee, 
rely on the spouse-network 
accept offers of friendship and favors 
and record addresses in pencil.

ALL Military Wives have a common bond.

The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands
 his commitment is unique 
He doesn’t have a job, he has a “mission” 
he can’t just decide to quit 
he’s on-call for his country 24/7 
but for you, he’s the most

UNreliable guy in town!

His language is foreign

TDY

PCS

OPR

ACC

BDU

And so, a Military Wife is a translator 
for her family and his.

She is the long-distance link to keep them informed, 
the glue that holds them together.

The Military Wife has her moments—

She wants to wring his neck, 
dye his uniform pink, 
and refuse to move to Siberia.

But she pulls herself together.

Give her a few days 
a travel brochure 
a long hot bath
a pledge to the flag
and a wedding picture,

And she goes.

She packs.

She moves.

She follows.

Why?
What for?

How come?

You may think it is because she has lost her mind.

But actually it is because she has lost her heart.

It was stolen from her by a man

who puts duty first

who longs to deploy

who salutes the flag

and whose boots in the doorway remind her 
that as long as he is her Military husband,
She will remain his Military wife.

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